Most Women Are Slaves to their Own Insecurities
A secret that I tell people all the time regarding self-esteem and insecurities is that it is a never-ending growth process, especially in a society that is plagued by body types as trends each decade.
Everyone has insecurities. Everyone has something about them they don’t like. If a person says they don’t have insecurities, they’re lying. But I think that there is a difference in the capacity of insecurities affecting a person’s daily life. For instance, I hate the fact I have hip dips, but it doesn’t affect my day-to-day consciousness.
Let me tell you a short story.
There is this girl I know, and every time we would hang out, she always made a comment about how big my butt was. Every. Time.
One day, she told me that she had scheduled an appointment for a BBL (Brazilian butt lift, a surgery that makes your butt bigger) the following year.
Mind you, we were both nineteen, in college. Nineteen years old.
She expected me to agree and congratulate her on getting the most dangerous type of plastic surgery.
She expected me to push her towards a dangerous surgery because there was a hope that at some point in my life, my insecurities would push me to plastic surgery, too. And that would validate her insecure consciousness.
She expected me to become an accomplice to her insecure conscious.
The reason why I shared this story is to say that most women don’t want friends, most women are slaves to their own insecurities, and they want accomplices to support their insecure conscious.
With most women being in bondage to their own insecurities, their insecurities rewire their entire brain and instead of attempting to overcome their insecurities, they instead want accomplices who are just as delusional to support their insecure conscious.
A lot of women want you to hate yourself the same way they hate themselves because it creates a common ground for you both to be a “victim” and blame others for personal problems that you both need to hold yourself accountable for. Women especially befriend other women with heavy insecurities because they want comfort and justification instead of seeking therapy and self-acceptance.
Why do you think most women always have a sob story about why she doesn’t have friends and every single woman she was friends with did her wrong?
Why do you think most women always have a sob story about how men did them wrong and every single man she was with broke their heart and did her wrong?